How to Find a Surrogate in New York or New Jersey

While there are many women who would like to be surrogates, either because they have a desire to help someone or because they are looking for the financial assistance they can receive for their service, many of them may not be physically or emotionally qualified. The criminal and social background assessment, medical testing and mental health evaluation are all critical to determining whether the surrogate can become pregnant and safely carry a pregnancy to term. For this reason, finding a surrogate mother who is qualified, whom you trust and with whom you have shared expectations, can be complicated and time-consuming.  Fortunately, there are resources and professionals available to help you find a surrogate in New Jersey or New York who is qualified and a good match for you both.

While the law firm of Rumbold & Seidelman does not provide matching services, we are happy to assist you through the legal aspects of the process. Because we’ve worked in the field of reproductive law for many years, we  are able to refer you to qualified professionals and matching programs which can help you to find surrogate mothers in NJ (matching programs do not work with surrogates in NY). To learn more about our services as surrogacy attorneys, we encourage you to call our law firm at 888-962-3001.

We’ve provided more detailed information below regarding where to find a surrogate in New York or New Jersey .

How to Find a Surrogate in NY or NJ

Singles or couples looking for surrogate mothers in New York or New Jersey have two paths available to them. They may choose to find a surrogate on their own, or they can work with a matching professional. The path you choose is up to you, but it should be guided by the responsibilities you are prepared to take on in the surrogacy process.

How to Find Surrogates with a Matching Program

There are many professionals who can help you to find a surrogate. Most surrogacy matching programs work throughout the United States and can help you to find a surrogate in a state with favorable surrogacy laws. While many matching programs refer to themselves as “agencies,” they are more appropriately called “matching programs” because they are not regulated by the state.

If you decide to work with a matching professional, that professional should take the time to get to know a little about you, including your personal preferences and the ideal profile for your prospective surrogate. The information the program gathers is often used to match you with a surrogate already working with their program or within the program’s network. While many matching programs pre-screen potential surrogates before matching with intended parents, there are other programs which don’t start the screening process until the surrogate has been matched with intended parents. Some intended parents find the services provided by matching professionals to be invaluable because many of these programs support you through every step of the surrogacy process rather than limiting their services to just finding a surrogate mother.

How to Find a Surrogate Mother Without a Matching Program

Some intended parents looking for a surrogate mother  prefer not to work with a matching program either because they want to be more involved in the process or because they don’t want to pay the fees charged by matching programs. For that reason, they may choose to find a surrogate in New Jersey or New York on their own. There are a few ways to go about this independent surrogate search which include:

  • Online and print surrogacy classifieds ads
  • Surrogacy matching groups posting on social media and on internet forums
  • Networking with family and friends

If you intend to work with a traditional surrogate (meaning the surrogate’s egg was used in conception) you will have to find a surrogate on your own, because matching professionals are highly unlikely to work on anything other than gestational surrogacies. You are also unlikely to need the services of a matching program if a family member or friend has offered to be your surrogate.

If you are finding a surrogate on your own, it may take you longer to find someone who is qualified, shares your surrogacy preferences and goals, and is a good match for you.  Because a professional won’t be guiding the process, it will be your responsibility to get to know the surrogate to make sure she has a lifestyle conducive to a healthy pregnancy. You will also need to find out her expectations regarding your payment of her living expenses or compensation. While this list is far from comprehensive, you will also need to be comfortable discussing such sensitive issues as termination of the pregnancy in the event of a medical complication and pregnancy reduction if she becomes pregnant with multiples. Once you’re comfortable moving forward with the surrogate, she will need to be medically and psychologically cleared by professionals. In the unfortunate event that she doesn’t pass these hurdles, you will need to start the process of finding a surrogate mother all over again.

Many intended parents successfully find their surrogacy partner on their own, and you can, too — provided you educate yourself on the process and are prepared for the realities you’ll confront along the way.

Contact Our Law Firm About Finding Your Surrogate

Whether you find your surrogate in New York or New Jersey, you will need to work with an attorney who can make sure you will be securely recognized as the legal parents of the child. Rumbold & Seidelman has the experience required to help ensure your surrogacy journey is a success. If you want to begin the process of finding a surrogate, we can advise you on how to do this. If you have already found your surrogate in New York or New Jersey, contact us today to get started.

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